Without further ado... The results from my survey are back. In no particular order they are:
* Stuck Up
* (My ex's) loss
* Sometimey
* Sexy as Hell
* Total Package
* Nice Rack
* Bully
* Crazy
* Red Head
* Sweety
* Hilarious
* Forethought
* Bad Mom
Definitely a lot more positives then I had anticipated. However, that was not what I was searching for so let's look at the negative personality traits individually.
Stuck up - It amazes me how the truth can be misconstrued as a negative trait. I am far from stuck up. The truth is, I'm painfully shy and I also lack the ability to make "small talk". I am comfortable sitting in silence and do not feel the need to perpetuate every moment with senseless babble. That said, this is not intended for me to justify my character but to enhance it. Apparently, this is something I need to work on. I'm not quite sure how I will achieve this but I am open to suggestions...
(My ex's loss) - Quite possibly but my gain... next!
Sometimey - I really wish I could get a clear definition on this one. I'm not sure what this means so for the meantime we will skip it.
Sexy as Hell - Gee... thanks (I think)
Total Package - Let the record state that this note and the "Sexy as Hell" note were in 2 different hand writings, and none of the participants were bribed. That stated, I feel the same way about myself... I just wish other people would see that as well.
Nice Rack - As I have said many times before, Give me a knife, something for the pain, and something for the bleeding. I will cut them off and give them to you. They do nothing but cause problems for me and I despise them.
Bully - I had to go to the dictionary to get a clear definition for this one. "A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people" While I never would have guessed this would describe me apparently someone thinks it does. I will have to look deeper into this and see what I can do to rectify this character flaw.... suggestions?
Crazy - I'm not entirely sure if this is a negative or a positive trait. Nor am I certain about what type of "crazy" I am characterised as being. For now I will assume it is positive and leave it alone but I leave this open for discussion at a further time.
Red Head - thank for stating the obvious
Sweety - awwwww.
Hilarious - I would have never guessed someone thought I was funny, but okay.
Forethought - Not sure this is a character trait but I definitely do this... thanks for noticing.
Bad Mom - Unless these comments come from my son (which they didn't) I chose not acknowledge them, except to state that this stems from someone only hearing one side of a story and also comes from a person who has no children.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Unperfect Person
I've been doing a lot of looking in the mirror lately. No, I'm not conceited. I have just been trying to determine why it is so difficult for me to meet new people. I have only 1 close friend and no perspective mates. I'm beginning to think I have the word "BITCH" stamped somewhere on my forehead. It is pretty upsetting when I am out and about with my only friend and people speak to her and not me. Now, I am speaking about people in general but the really problem, of course, is the lack of attention I get from the opposite sex. If one takes a moment and looks for rings you can tell that she is obviously married. I, on the other hand, am woefully single.
Does it boil down to looks? I don't think so. Neither of us are skinny, nor is one better looking than the other. Do clothes matter? Normally when we are out and about I am dressed from work (jeans and a nice shirt). She, on the other hand, is a stay at home mom who is usually wearing whatever happens to be clean. So obviously it must come down to personality.
I am starting an experiment. I have a jar that I am going to take around and I am having people put a word or two in the jar that they think describes me. This is going to be completely anonymous so hopefully I'll get some real candid answers.
The effects of my personality have been bothering me lately. In the past month I have been told my sarcasm comes off as bitchy-ness and my shyness comes off as stand-off-ish. The goal of this experiment is to get some more negative personality traits that I can (hopefully) change.
I have wrestled with the thought of changing my personality for sometime now. It is not an easy concept to comprehend. Your personality, for the most part, defines who you are. Changing would be a BIG step outside of my comfort zone. Still, as Einstein said it, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result. Since I don't like the results of my personality I suppose it's time to change.
I'll conduct this experiment for a few days and then I'll post the results.... Stay tuned.....
Does it boil down to looks? I don't think so. Neither of us are skinny, nor is one better looking than the other. Do clothes matter? Normally when we are out and about I am dressed from work (jeans and a nice shirt). She, on the other hand, is a stay at home mom who is usually wearing whatever happens to be clean. So obviously it must come down to personality.
I am starting an experiment. I have a jar that I am going to take around and I am having people put a word or two in the jar that they think describes me. This is going to be completely anonymous so hopefully I'll get some real candid answers.
The effects of my personality have been bothering me lately. In the past month I have been told my sarcasm comes off as bitchy-ness and my shyness comes off as stand-off-ish. The goal of this experiment is to get some more negative personality traits that I can (hopefully) change.
I have wrestled with the thought of changing my personality for sometime now. It is not an easy concept to comprehend. Your personality, for the most part, defines who you are. Changing would be a BIG step outside of my comfort zone. Still, as Einstein said it, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result. Since I don't like the results of my personality I suppose it's time to change.
I'll conduct this experiment for a few days and then I'll post the results.... Stay tuned.....
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Unperfect Clone
I was once fervently against cloning, but now I'm beginning to realize that it is the future of society. Today, alone, at work I have been hit with 3 additional projects that I am now responsible for... and it's not even lunch time. What makes it almost comical is that I'm not told about these projects ahead of time. I'm not given any information or any training, and in 1 instance I was the last person to be informed that I now have a new job responsibility.
At least if I had a clone of myself we could possibly get all of my assigned work done. One of us could do the work I was initially hired to do and the other one could work on all of the new projects I have been given. Not only would it help with my stress level and time management but it would also help me financially. Once my clone starts working I will be paid closer to what I should be paid now. It is well known that I am the least paid employee here at work. Yet, I'm the one who gets the most responsibility heaped on me everyday. I have been working for over a year without a raise and within that year have had no less then 15 new assignments placed on myself.
Yes, I do believe cloning is the answer to my problems... at least here at work. So let's push for cloning and let me be 1st in line to get my clone.
At least if I had a clone of myself we could possibly get all of my assigned work done. One of us could do the work I was initially hired to do and the other one could work on all of the new projects I have been given. Not only would it help with my stress level and time management but it would also help me financially. Once my clone starts working I will be paid closer to what I should be paid now. It is well known that I am the least paid employee here at work. Yet, I'm the one who gets the most responsibility heaped on me everyday. I have been working for over a year without a raise and within that year have had no less then 15 new assignments placed on myself.
Yes, I do believe cloning is the answer to my problems... at least here at work. So let's push for cloning and let me be 1st in line to get my clone.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
"Unperfect" Phone Operator
I hate my name.
I don't really hate my name, actually I'm rather fond of it. I've had it longer then I've known my child (9 years). I've had it longer then I've had glasses (25 years). I've even had it longer than I've been alive (29+ years). I don't have a problem with my name but it seems other people do.
My name is not difficult, nor is it that unusual, but for some reason people just cannot believe my name. Let's start at work, I'll answer the phone with, "Thank you for calling _______. This is ________ how can I help you?" Seems pretty standard, to me. AT LEAST once a day I'll get a response of "Patty, did you say?". Um, no. Not even close. My name doesn't even have the letters P,A,T, or Y. Quite often after answering the phone with the standard greeting I'll get a response of, "May I speak with ______, please?" To which I respond, "This is." The person on the other end will then say, "Oh! I though you said Patty." Um, no. I do believe I know what my own name is and I do believe I know how to say it.
I have even went so far as to have people blind call me just to make sure I am enunciating correctly. Alas, they all say the same thing, "No, you're not saying Patty, you're saying ________."
Now, let's move onto my last name. Also, not a difficult name to pronounce but for some reason people either stumble over it or laugh at it. My last name I am not too fond of and never have been. It is the result of a failed marriage. I kept it for a number of reasons. First, I REALLY didn't want to go through the hassle of changing my name back to my maiden name. Second, my maiden name is not any better then my current name. Thirdly, it is easier having the same last name as my child. Lastly, and most important, I thought it would be a good way to piss off my ex-husband. Although it may not be the "perfect" last name I certainly don't understand how it is funny (girl at the pizza shop) or difficult to pronounce (college instructor).
Perhaps I will keep my names as they are (at least until a better opportunity presents itself). I will continue to correct the idiots who do not take the time to listen properly and I will not laugh with people who laugh at my name. But just for the record... my name is NOT Patty.
I don't really hate my name, actually I'm rather fond of it. I've had it longer then I've known my child (9 years). I've had it longer then I've had glasses (25 years). I've even had it longer than I've been alive (29+ years). I don't have a problem with my name but it seems other people do.
My name is not difficult, nor is it that unusual, but for some reason people just cannot believe my name. Let's start at work, I'll answer the phone with, "Thank you for calling _______. This is ________ how can I help you?" Seems pretty standard, to me. AT LEAST once a day I'll get a response of "Patty, did you say?". Um, no. Not even close. My name doesn't even have the letters P,A,T, or Y. Quite often after answering the phone with the standard greeting I'll get a response of, "May I speak with ______, please?" To which I respond, "This is." The person on the other end will then say, "Oh! I though you said Patty." Um, no. I do believe I know what my own name is and I do believe I know how to say it.
I have even went so far as to have people blind call me just to make sure I am enunciating correctly. Alas, they all say the same thing, "No, you're not saying Patty, you're saying ________."
Now, let's move onto my last name. Also, not a difficult name to pronounce but for some reason people either stumble over it or laugh at it. My last name I am not too fond of and never have been. It is the result of a failed marriage. I kept it for a number of reasons. First, I REALLY didn't want to go through the hassle of changing my name back to my maiden name. Second, my maiden name is not any better then my current name. Thirdly, it is easier having the same last name as my child. Lastly, and most important, I thought it would be a good way to piss off my ex-husband. Although it may not be the "perfect" last name I certainly don't understand how it is funny (girl at the pizza shop) or difficult to pronounce (college instructor).
Perhaps I will keep my names as they are (at least until a better opportunity presents itself). I will continue to correct the idiots who do not take the time to listen properly and I will not laugh with people who laugh at my name. But just for the record... my name is NOT Patty.
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